It's amazing how quick we are to put labels on people – "shy," "outgoing," "talkative," "reserved" – completely missing how differently we behave in various situations.
Hi Yy, rereading this post, I found that this paragraph was so meaningful for me today. Thanks again, as always.
"I wonder – how much of my "shyness" was just me living up to what everyone told me I was? After hearing "you're so quiet" over and over, I probably just accepted it as true. The more I believed "I'm just not a talker," the less likely I was to speak up, which only confirmed what everyone thought about me. It became a cycle – I was labeled quiet, so quiet I became."
Oh Yingying! You are so right. I've taken the liberty to rephrase your words and take the essence of your final thought as my guiding light for this day: As a waking-up person, I want to allow my fellow human beings to live freely all sides of themselves, not just the ones that match what I assume about them. Some days they might want to watch quietly, other days they might want to be the center of attention. These parts make them who they are, and each one deserves to be experienced by them, whether or not I appreciate or even notice them. I just want to respectfully share the planet as we all discover ourselves, in our own way, in our own time.
Hi Yy, rereading this post, I found that this paragraph was so meaningful for me today. Thanks again, as always.
"I wonder – how much of my "shyness" was just me living up to what everyone told me I was? After hearing "you're so quiet" over and over, I probably just accepted it as true. The more I believed "I'm just not a talker," the less likely I was to speak up, which only confirmed what everyone thought about me. It became a cycle – I was labeled quiet, so quiet I became."
Thanks A.T. For letting me know 😊
Oh Yingying! You are so right. I've taken the liberty to rephrase your words and take the essence of your final thought as my guiding light for this day: As a waking-up person, I want to allow my fellow human beings to live freely all sides of themselves, not just the ones that match what I assume about them. Some days they might want to watch quietly, other days they might want to be the center of attention. These parts make them who they are, and each one deserves to be experienced by them, whether or not I appreciate or even notice them. I just want to respectfully share the planet as we all discover ourselves, in our own way, in our own time.
Thanks A.T.! I love your rephrasing 😊